What is a relationship to you? I dont only mean the boy-girl kind of relationship but also friendship and relationship with people around you.

What is the most essential thing that a relationship must have for it to flourish?

To me, it is trust.

When there is no trust, somehow on another, a relationship crumbles easily. Communication is important as well. To express each others thoughts and feelings.

Now that I am 16, I think about it more often. Not that I dont think about it when I was younger but now I feel like I know why a relationship is important to me.

Relationship takes time to grow. It is like a young plant. One needs to nurture it to make sure it grows strong and healthy. And it takes time for this young plant to grow into a tree. Sometimes, I find myself asking whether this person is important to me that I am willing to sacrifice my time for this person. Cause all of us has the same amount of time everyday. Time, to me is more important than money. Money can be earned back but not time.

Now, back to trust.

Can you say that this person is untrustworthy when you yourself have never tried trusting this person?

I dont think so. You have never tried trusting this person and dubbed that person untrustworthy? Isn't that unfair to that person?
Yes, trust is to be earned. But can one earned it when he himself have never been trusted?

In a relationship, it is a 2 way thing. Like how it takes 2 hands to clap. Relationship cant be one-sided. I dont think that is having a relationship. It is called idol and fan.

To me relationship is this simple. Trusting each other and taking note of the other persons likes and dislikes. It doesn't have to be so complicated.

Friendship is a relationship that is very close to my heart. Having friends is like finding an unpolished stone. Where you first have to take away all the unwanted material and polish it until shines and the precious stone is revealed beneath all the grime and dirt. However, the process of polishing is painful. Like how iron sharpens iron and so does one man sharpens the other. Time is needed to polish this precious stone. However, there are times where you thought that a piece of rock is a precious stone and you polish it only to uncover that it is only a piece of rock and nothing more. After awhile, our eyes become trained to searched for the precious stone. Just like jade. This certain rock may look like the real jade but after polishing it much, it turns out to be either serpentine or jasper. Stones that look like jade but not jade. And I totally agree that one true friend is worth more than gold or silver.

Why do I think communication is important?

Cause, if one dont communicate their feelings to their friends, how is your friends suppose to know? They are not mind readers. Sweeping things under the carpet is not good. It lightens burdens.

Any sorrow or unhappiness shouldn't be kept in your heart, share, afterall, friends can share the burdens. Friends multiply sorrow, divides sadness, adds meaning and value to your life and minuses the bad things that happens!